Last week,
across the Netherlands school bags dangled from flag poles above many front
doors. This quirky habit broadcasts to the neighborhood that a kid has just
graduated high school. It also signals the start of the school holidays, when
families pack up and head off.
Flags are
again flying In the Netherlands this week.
They hang at half mast on public buildings to memorialize the 193 Dutch
men, women and children who had headed off to Asia, but died when their plane
was shot down over the Ukraine by a missile.
The
Netherlands is a small country, just 17 million. There are cities in the world
with larger populations. Here suffering
193 dead is comparable to a loss of 4,100 lives in a country to size of the US.
So it was inevitable that I would know
someone or know of someone who knew someone on board. And so it was. Within an
hour a friend called to tell me she had lost a colleague who was traveling with
children. Next a family member reported the same. Thus a national – no international-- tragedy unfolding
in some far off place quickly assumes the character of “up close and personal.”
This event has affected us all.
Thoughtful
friends living abroad have called and written expressing their condolences. I
don’t deserve them, thank goodness. My loved ones are safe and accounted for.
But I accept these simple acts of kindness because we must foster
kindness. There is so much hate in the
world. It swirls around like some invisible, toxic radiation. It can reach 10 kilometers (35,000 feet) above
the Earth’s surface to snuff out the lives of men, women, and children, who,
oblivious to its existence, were just “passing through” on their way to do good
or just have fun.
I am old
enough to remember a time when getting onto a plane was glamorous, even
thrilling. Into my hand luggage went an
embroidery canvas, needles, thread and, yes, scissors, to while away the hours
between Amsterdam and places my employer sent me. Other women in the cabin knitted. How times
have changed. And not for the better. Sharp objects and many other things, too, are
now banned on board as potential weapons. The list grows. I accept this as a necessary
precaution. Yet, this week the fate of 300 souls on MH-17 demonstrated that
despite all the technological improvements to aircraft, despite increased security
precautions of all sorts, flying long haul is not a calculated risk, it is a deadly
gamble.